Fall in love and get engaged in a relationship means trust and share things with my partner. Some people, however, experience insecurity in the relationship because they find it difficult to trust their partner and they nourish their suspicion.
In a relationship, it is important to have a security framework in which you can express yourself freely, be yourself. If there is no security, you may end up with a whole lot of insecurities and doubts.
What are the signs of insecurity in a relationship that may not be easily understood?
Constant control and jealousy
You try to control everything, either the relationship itself or your partner. Some people have a strong need to control the relationship in order to not feel threatened.
The need for control could also mean that there are deeper psychological problems, such as a background of obsessive compulsive disorder. In addition, insecurity manifests itself in the form of jealousy.
The quest for continuous affection
You constantly check your partner for tenderness and love. Everyone of course wants to feel special and loved, but it is not normal for one to count the times when one’s partner does something tender and beautiful.
Others may still say and emphasize the phrases: “You don’t love me as you love your friends”, “You don’t show me affection” etc. But such comments, if made at a reduced frequency, may be normal in a relationship.
Psychologists argue that people with low self-esteem hold in themselves and do not express their needs and requirements so as not to disturb their partner. However, this makes it difficult to create a nice bond.
“Locking” thoughts and desires
In a relationship there is both debate and disagreement. Many people try to avoid any disagreement, believing it to be a symptom of weakness. Thus, they do not express their thoughts and try to discuss only issues with which they agree with their partners.
This habit can potentially hurt the couple in the long run. The lack of spontaneity enhances insecurity.
So if we recognize these three signs, we have the opportunity to fight insecurity. Lack of confidence is a trap that leads us into negative thoughts that bring us closer to misery and frustration.
